If you were to move away from past time negative images you would be allowing things outside of yourself to control you.  When "things" outside of you control you, you are not in control of yourself.  You say you are going through a process.  Time truly does heal - and patience is a big helper.

Flunking out of college is not the end of the world.  It is your daughter's creation.  She has to live with it in her own way and it may in fact open other doors that will bring her greater satisfaction.  I in fact flunked out of the school of architecture - mainly because I'm not an artist and didn't know that art was one of the major requirements.  I then entered into economics and ended up with an MA and an excellent career in the field of Information Systems - something that I was good at and enjoyed as well.

Am learning just a tiny bit about the Law of Attraction and in fact am reading Care and Feeding of Dragons, Confession of a Diabetic - Beyond Law of Attraction to Align Within by Koan who has had a long career as a Jungian psychotherapist.  An automobile accident gave her Type I diabetes and she eventually used the diabetes not as a curse but as a positive teacher.  Everything that happens to us is for a purpose and a learning experience.  We are each an eternal spirit.  We are not our mind.  Everything that happens is our spiritual creation - for a specific purpose to learn and to grow.

We have all of the answers to everything that we face in life - inside of ourselves.  Sometimes we don't like the answers, but they are there.  By reaching out and looking to others for answers we only have someone to blame if their solution doesn't work out the way that we think it should.  We really truly do have all of our answers within ourselves.

One way to access our own information is to live in the present moment.  You can't change the past nor even create anything in the future.  One has to let go of the past and be in the moment.  The present moment is the only thing that is real.  The triggers that you run into that bring up "bad" memories can be changed to just bring up memories without judgment.  There is loads and loads of information on the present moment, sometimes simply called "Now."

Your daughter is also learning something in her young life.   What that is, is for her to find out.  I've raised two children and a grandchild and I know how difficult it is to let them go, but the more you do the more you can focus on yourself and your purpose for being here.  Yes, I lost an adult child to drugs so I know the difficulties in doing that but it can be done.

Have practiced meditation for many years and continue to use it daily as I learn and change but I'm still far from perfect and in fact never will be.

Hugs, Blue Rose!

I personally don't feel that relocating is a bad idea or an avoidance of living and  healing.  Sometimes, our experiences create such a deep scar that certain triggers slice open the healing and pour salt on the open wound, so to speak.

In my case, leaving places behind that have been the source of intense emotional trauma has been cathartic on many levels.  One of the greatest things that my counseling therapist has told me, over and over, is that "feelings are not facts."  How I feel about something is valid, but those feelings aren't always based upon facts.  In your situation, your feelings are based upon the choices that your daughter made and the trauma that her choices inflicted upon you, as well as herself.  When you see places where you know that things happened, of course it's going to trigger many, many emotions. 

Relocating, in some people's views, may be an attempt to run from a situation.  Other people may view relocation as an opportunity to start over.  It depends entirely upon what the motivations are.  For me, relocating from a remote, isolated dwelling into a shared communal situation got me OUT of the four walls where my ex's double-life and myriad betrayals took place and INTO an environment of community, safety, and encouragement. 

I would suggest that you consider your motivations, Blue Rose.  The one and only thing over which we have control is our Self.  If the burden of your daughter's choices and actions is too much to bear, then relocating and leaving behind the triggers may be an option. 

Brightest healing blessings to you, Blue Rose - you've been SUCH a source of encouragement and support to me in these past few months.  Now, I offer virtual hugs and sincere love to you in this difficult time of reckoning.