I undertand your concern!!! I also contacted herpes years ago and it was always in the back of my mind about having to have a c-sect or something happening to the baby,etc etc.
Well..years later, I have 2 healthy babies! I researched like crazy and was glad that I did. First, you will NOT , I emphasize NOT have to have a c-sect because of herpes..I am almost 98 percent sure. WHY? I get/and got outbreaks monthly!! and have for many years. What I did was go on supression therapy with plain old acylovir, for the last month of the pregnancy, which is standard protocol and does not harm the baby. I only needed this because I had constant outbreaks the last few months of my pregnancy due to the lowered immune system. I researhed and found a woman who experienced what I had in terms of outbreaks, plus she was clinically depressed, etc and had a specialized OB for at high risk pregnancies. She told me the dosage was very important and you need to take the same amount you would take, as if you HAD an outbreak, and not the dose to try and supress and outbreak. Both pregnancies, I needed to inform my doctor/midwife of this fact, or they would have prescribed the lower, possibly ineffective dosage.
I had no outbreak at all during my births. My first was a c-sect but not related to herpes..long story...mainly terrible birth experience while in a foreign country..although unnecessary sections happen in America ALL THE TIME.
My 2nd birth was with a wonderful midwife group and was all natural, no drugs and in a water birth tub!
YOU CAN AND WILL have a normal birth experience. Furthermore, the newest research actually shows that using Acylovir during the last month is more effective of protecting you baby than a c-sect...even if you HAD an outbreak! That is right! It seems to naturally protect the baby..plus you pass along your own antibodies to the virus while pregnant! There also was no proven protection even when having a c-sect..as c-sect babies contacted the virus at the same rate as non section babies.
It is only dangerous if a pregnant woman has her first outbreak when pregnant. Since you already have this virus, in a way, you may be luckey, as herpes is so dominant and many people do not know they are infected. So a woman's partner may have it and not know it..then the woman is at great risk when pregnant.
I hope this can alleviate some of your fears!!!!!!!!!!!!