Loneliness Is Bad for Your Health 
Tony Isaacs
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Loneliness Is Bad for Your HealthTwo University of Chicago psychologists, Louise Hawkley and John Cacioppo, have been trying to disentangle social isolation, loneliness, and the physical deterioration and diseases of aging, right down to the cellular level.
The researchers suspected that while the toll of loneliness may be mild and unremarkable in early life, it accumulates with time. To test this idea, the scientists studied a group of college-age individuals and continued an annual study of a group of people who joined when they were between 50 and 68 years old.
Their findings, reported in the August issue of Current Directions in Psychological Science, a journal of the Association for Psychological Science, are revealing. Consider stress, for example. The more years you live, the more stressful experiences you are going to have: new jobs, marriage and divorce, parenting, financial worries, illness. It’s inevitable.
However, when the psychologists looked at the lives of the middle-aged and older people in their study, they found that although the lonely ones reported the same number of stressful life events, they identified more sources of chronic stress and recalled more childhood adversity.
Moreover, they differed in how they perceived their life experiences. Even when faced with similar challenges, the lonelier people appeared more helpless and threatened. And ironically, they were less apt to actively seek help when they are stressed out.
Hawkley and Cacioppo then took urine samples from both the lonely and the more contented volunteers, and found that the lonely ones had more of the hormone epinephrine flowing in their bodies. Epinephrine is one of the body’s “fight or flight” chemicals, and high levels indicate that lonely people go through life in a heightened state of arousal.
As with blood pressure, this physiological toll likely becomes more apparent with aging. Since the body’s stress hormones are intricately involved in fighting inflammation and infection, it appears that loneliness contributes to the wear and tear of aging through this pathway as well.
There is more bad news. When we experience the depletion caused by stress, our bodies normally rely on restorative processes like sleep to shore us up. But when the researchers monitored the younger volunteers’ sleep, they found that the lonely nights were disturbed by many “micro awakenings.” That is, they appeared to sleep as much as the normal volunteers, but their sleep was of poorer quality.
Not surprisingly, the lonelier people reported more daytime dysfunction. Since sleep tends to deteriorate with age anyway, the added hit from loneliness is probably compromising this natural restoration process even more.
Loneliness is not the same as solitude. Some people are just fine with being alone, and some even see solitude as an important path to spiritual growth. But for many, social isolation and physical aging make for a toxic cocktail.
DQ's notes:
Loneliness is not an incurable disease, but it does take positive healthy steps to overcome. Here are a couple of links I recommend:
http://www.solosingles.com/sslonely/ladder.htm
http://www.cyberparent.com/you.htm - (besides the article at this site on loneliness, I also recommend you read the one on exercise and how it helps one have a better mood.)
Live long, live healthy, live happy!
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This is a reply to # 946,414tell me about it. i live it every day for going on 4 years now (the first two, i was occupied with work). i am lucky if i see a human one a month, and that would be the mailman or water delivery. i am a fish out of water here. in college they taught us humans are social creatures. sometimes you cannot always go by that, because some will just plain attack you. but, mainly i just don't know anyone here and while i went out on my own in oregon, i will not do that here. i don't get the same vibes.
my grandpa died of lonliness a few years ago and i seem to pattern my life after him now, unfortunately. he told me that drs said he was dying with heart diease, but he told me it was from lonliness. his wife left him and the kids didn't visit, only one dropped in once in a while. the last time i saw him, everything was coated with dust and he said how lonely he was. this is a guy who had like 9 kids.
- Re: Loneliness Is Bad for Your Healt... Tony Isaacs
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MoreThis is a reply to # 946,444That is sad to hear. You know, reading your post reminds me of how easy it is sometimes to give advice and how hard it is to actually walk in someone else's shoes.
Without walking in your shoes (which might mean that I haven't a clue about what I am talking about in your own personal situation), I would normally suggest taking a look at the suggestions links that I provided in the above post and give the opinion that often people find relief from loneliness by joining groups with common interests, such as a reading group or a hobby group, or perhaps a social action group.
I would also add that Vitamin B12 has been associated with mood in many studies and again emphasize the positive mood enhancement usually seen in moderate exercise.
In general newcomers who are listeners first and contributors second are the ones who are most accepted into such groups - and I do not mean you, I am speaking from personal experience in joining new groups. Yes, sometimes ol' DQ goes in with guns blazing to try to save the world, and instead mostly stirs up some ca-ca when he would have had a much better chance by slowly warming the group to himself and his message. Sometimes when I have done that, the ca-ca ends up smack on the head of yours truly!
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- Re: Loneliness Is Bad for Your Healt... Aharleygyrl
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This is a reply to # 946,461
thanks. the moment i read your message i started to cry and can barely see the keyboard right now. i hate that, nose gets all stuffed up, it sucks. the last three days, i cry constantly. something is wrong with me and i need my mommy, actually, i guess. but she's 1200 miles away, and generally busy. i miss my friends so much. i had a few older friends. they are the best and the funniest. and you learn a lot from them. i wish there were some here where i live. but california is different. people keep to themselves, not like oregon. i am not used to it. and most old people here are rich. i miss martha. she is in her 80s and a scientologist. she's a kick. we would go to lunch all the time and walk to the healthfood store. i would see her every morning if i looked out my window. a few times i used to hide in bushes and help her deliver scientology literature door to door. i new the police could be called at any moment. it was truly living on the edge, lol. and she would always fight with the christian lady in her 90s, Leona, who was my good friend, too. she moved out a while back to her daughter's and now they are both almost as lonely as me. i don't think you can replace certain people you meet. some just always stand out and when they are not around, life can be miserable.
i have the b-12. it isn't helping, except with energy.
the second link, i cannot get to work.
i have a question for you. i have been searching a long time and cannot find info. if you have stomach cancer, do you burp all the time? 3 months ago, this burping started and i do not do anything different and i eat pretty well, although not enough raw, but some. part of me does not want to know the answer to this.
some say get a dog. you know what..i feel if i got a dog, i'd be sitting here lonely, with a dog. and i'd be neglecting him like i do myself. i don't think it would work at all.
- Re: Loneliness Is Bad for Your Healt... #67299
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MoreThis is a reply to # 946,482Might this be the reason you responded somewhat (i think) hyper to aye's posting. You value curezone alot probably for the same reason as i, circumstances in life have created somewhat of problematic period and curezone is the only place of people who seem to relate.
He was just trying to learn you something, in his own yoga-weirdo way.
Hey, i think you give out great info and are probably a nice person. Dont give up, though im not sure you would want to hear it from me. Maybe we could arrange some sort of money deal for you, if others from curezone are willing to.
Unedit: You are 30.000 in debt.- Re: Loneliness Is Bad for Your Healt... Aharleygyrl
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This is a reply to # 946,499
boem,
i had written a post to the webmaster about pictures i uploaded and aye said i was not having any problems and asked why i was only posting so that people would look at my pics and said i was always doing this. this came off a few blogs i had removed that i just felt were distasteful, no biggie. but, he was angry about that. so, no, it had nothing to do with my situtation. i have always been the sort who doesn't like being accused of lying. i do not understand why everyone is so concerned with aye and me, though. in my opinion, he has an agenda, he believes people should not eat meat at all and he gets very adament about it. he also is adament about yoga and he professes to see all and that sort of thing. when i read his posts, i feel a force with them, that you need to believe, a cult-like feeling. That's just me, so it you don't, that's fine. with him, i feel if you are in with the crowd, you do ok, but if not, there is a clash. people who have an agenda and push it, i do not get along with, never have.
i appreciate your post. my biggest problem is i have no one here to help me out, zero, nada, it's just me. and i am a strong believer in two heads are better than one. and more would be better. but, i don't mean people online, i mean people who are physically present, a support group, not unlike the friends i used to have back home. i sit here, wronged for nearly 4 years montarily, wronged over 5 years mentally and emotionally, with 1200 emails or more, not wanting to do a damn thing, not even knowing what the hell to do, and i am simply at a loss. and i go deeper in debt and deeper into lonliness every day. to just pack up and go home is not as simple as it sounds. but i may have to, i have no clue. and, many of my friends are gone, didn't keep in contact with them when I moved. one is in a care home. it's just all a mess. i like to hang around christian people, i mean true christian people. most people do not know what that is, nor have they experienced it. i have some friends in washington. we went through school together and grew up together. her and her husband andtheir friends are true christians and are pure people. it is all brotherly love and you do not find that very often. they get together and play board games and cards. i imagine they bowl, too. we did as kids. so, i have considered moving there. i seriously do not know what to do and get sicker every day. people say, go make some friends. well, you have to be careful. and, i wouldn't know how in a big city, too scared. and, when you get into a deep depression, you do not feel like joining a club or whatever.
- Re: Loneliness Is Bad for Your Healt... Aharleygyrl
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- Re: Loneliness Is Bad for Your Healt... Tony Isaacs
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This is a reply to # 946,482The elderly make wise and wonderful friends - it is a shame a tragedy the way that our society dumps them off in rest homes and assisted living. Perhaps you might find company and rewards from doing the same thing my wonderful friend and fellow CureZone member Luella does - visiting and helping the elderly at care facilities?
Try the second link now, it should work. If not,. cut and paste it into your browser.
Burping can come from many things, including stomach ulcers. My best advice is to see a qualified medical professional. And if you don't like what you hear, get a second opinion. Mainstream medicine and their diagnostic tools are very good at diagnosing problems, though not infallible. The problems occur when they attempt to treat those problems with man-made drugs. Once you are certain of the source of the problem, then you can make a decision on how best to treat it. Chances are, nature will have some good alternatives.
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- Re: Loneliness Is Bad for Your Healt... Raynbo
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This is a reply to # 946,482Dogs do work. They are not a total solution, but they do wonders.
I have been alone, literally, all my life. I was even a latch key kid. I have had a number of dysfunctional relationships, but my last one ended 12 years ago, and I have been living alone ever since.
I have tried joining spiritual groups, taking classes, etc., but if the karma is not there to connect, it dosen't happen, and I don't care what anyone says. Even here on CZ, the answers I get are usualy short and sharp, if I get one at all. And the older you get the harder it is, because most people my age have families and life long friends and they are busy. Besides, I really don't want to be with somone just to be with someone. I live in California too, and worse than that I live in Orange County, and worse than that I live in a Mexican neighborhood where no one speaks English! Good Grief. I don't speak to anyone except those at work...and boy, is that limited...my boss hardly even says good morning. I have no family to go back to, even if I wanted to. I ran away from home at 19, and I have been running ever since...until I got stuck here, that is.
I reconnected with the love of my life from high school a few years ago...(via the mail, as we live 3000 miles apart)and to make a long story short, I ended up having a nervous breakdown. I cried for up to three hours a day for a year and a half. Let's just say, he was no Robert Kincaide. I haven't been quite the same ever since.
I try to do the things that are good for me...but I fall short a lot. What I like best is cuddling on the sofa with my dog and that does not equate to exercise...my stomach always feels weak and makes me tired, so I rarely do more than walk (dogs are good for that, tho). My dog is my lifeline. He makes me laugh, he makes me go out, he fills my heart with love...and he even gets me down on the floor to play once and awhile. (He can be very bossy...to bad my exercise bike is not like him...it just sits there in the corner like a lump.)
I was thinking of trying Jon Barron's Women's Testosterone...not so much to perk up my libido, but to increase my will....but I am afraid I will react to it, as any thing hormonal gives me these episodes...and all this stuff (superfoods, antioxidents, enzymes..water filters...the list goes on and on....)costs so much money.-
Never Give Up! Tony Isaacs
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This is a reply to # 946,555Never give up Raynbo! I have no idea what you may look like, but your inner beauty shines clearly in your caring and thoughtful posts. I daresay that many of us here at CureZone have love for our Raynbo, who, like her name, brings a beautiful light into our daily lives. I know I do. And such beauty deserves her one true love to have and to hold til the end of their days. Here's hoping that you find the one meant for you - I think you will.
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This is a reply to # 946,575i don't know about raynbo, but i lost all interest in men when the tubal ligation put me into post menopause. in fact, i found an old thing of birth control pills the drs tried to give me for it and i am taking those out of desperation. i have tried all the other stuff, and i have the natural stuff and it plain does not work hardly at all. it costs tons and does not have enough estrogen or progesterone to do any good. i did not really need a tubal ligation, but thought i did because of a man. the man lied and here i am, never having needed it, unable to have kids now (and i wanted some) and am in post menopause, never went through a normal one, and it happened at age 39 right one month after the tubal ligation. they tell me my fsh is that of a woman in her 60s. i am almost off the charts and it has been like that for quite a while now. before that, i had feminine feelings and stuff, but after that none at all. so, i will never be married. and our society measures a woman's success by her ability to marry and have kids. please do not tell me differently, i am talking about society as a whole.
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This is a reply to # 946,585Aharleygyrl,
I will disagree with your statement about what society expects. Who cares what society things? Who cares about what anybody thinks? YOU be happy. That's all. Your success is not measured on what society or what anybody else thinks. Your success is a personal thing.
Okay, for me. By society's standards then I would be unsuccessful. I work at home, live way out in the country, have four dogs and one cat. Two picked up within the last six months, one in the middle of the country and one at a gas station. I am alone most of the time. But my environment is comfortable for me. Surround yourself with things that you love. Kind of like feng shui, but my way. My social life includes working with kids and the elderly. Big whoop. Yet, I have never been happier in my life. I have attracted friends that are interested in the same things. I love my alone time, my work time, and when I am with people.
Now.... I am not the most perfect well adjusted person in the world as this may sound. I have come a long, long way.
In my 30's I was agoraphobic, full of fear, starved for love, and yes, oh so lonely. It took ten years of reconstructing myself to who I am now. And by this time, it's been way over 10 years. This included changing my diet as junk foods have a very big part in this. sugar, sweeteners, and even diet sodas are killers. Alcohol is the worst.
But most of all, it included changing me. It didn't happen overnight. There were many days of crying and feeling inferior. Little by little I learned to love myself for who I was. Agoraphobic, afraid to leave the house, suffering from panic attacks. That was me. And I loved me. Once I had the acceptance I moved on, sometimes in sheer terror. Anytime I had a negative thought, I replaced it with a positive thought. Ten years later I was a new person. And I built new habits. Oh, and I was alone. I have been on the other side of the spectrum. This is why when I see someone going through loneliness issues, when I see someone hurting, my heart goes out to them and I want to make everything allright. But it does take commitment and work.
You are a success when you perceive yourself to be a success. And I will tell you a secret. Oonce you perceive yourself to be a success, the world will see you as successful.
Hugs,
Luella- Re: Never Give Up! Aharleygyrl
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This is a reply to # 946,682well, i was just explaining what happened. because of the surgery that i should not have had, i have no female-type feelings. so i will not being marrying is all.
yes, i have that agoraphobia thing. i just developed it in the last year. i HATE going outside and never open the curtains. i cannot stand to be around people or in public. this is all new to me, was never like this before. i heard someone with this the other day...Paula Deen, she had what i had. she said she was a functioning agoraphobic, she could go out when she had too, but didn't like it. most of the time, she didn't.
as far as the success thing...i have had too many people telling me i am not. so, i am not. but, i do not care, so i guess it doesn't matter.
i will tell you something ironic. our society says successful people marry. that is what everyone is to do when they grow up. if you are not married by a certain age, it is deemed there is something wrong with you. i would have family members call me and try to get me to tell them i am gay. funny, i was never with a female, but the conclusion is you are gay. the ironic part: many people are divorced. that's ok. as long as you were married, it shows you were normal and you are even more accepted if you have kids. myself, i see it as more of failure to be divorced than to never be married, but that is just not the perception.
i am not saying you have to believe it or live it or anything, it is just a societal value that i grew up with.
that is great about your life and you worked hard. myself, i am just coming off an extremely abusive situation and on top of it i have no one here to console me and hang out with. so, it is hitting me like a ton of bricks.
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- Re: Never Give Up! Aharleygyrl
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This is a reply to # 946,791
no, not that i experience. after a tubal ligation i have heard from tons of women who have zero sex drive. i take the hormones and still nothing. i was 100% fine before it in that dept. i didn't have sex, but i had a sex drive. and i liked fashion and girly stuff. after the tubal, i did not.
http://curezone.com/forums/description.asp?f=839
- Re: Never Give Up! Zoebess
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This is a reply to # 946,876I know many woman who have had tubal ligations
and I include myself in the group. It is not
normal to have no sex drive post-surgery. If
anything, it made mine stronger since the worry
of becoming pregnant was gone.
You may consider doing a hormone workup.
There are natural alternatives like yam's cream
and many other options.
blessings,
Zoe
-_-- Re: Never Give Up! Aharleygyrl
18 y
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This is a reply to # 946,936
yes, i know, i hear that, but i also have gotten hundreds of emails in the last couple years saying they had the exact same thing happen. it is part of post tubal ligation syndrome, and it doesn't happen to everyone, but to a lot of women. i have had the bloodwork done, but they never check hormone levels, because my dr says it is not necessary. he says all that needs tested is the fsh and if that is menopausal, the hormones will be,too. he put me on HRT, which causes cancer. it made me feel better, but i only took it a month because i know about the cancer. so, i went to natural homones or so i thought. i have the made at a compounding pharmacy, but they are synthetic, which i guess is ok, but tey cost a lot and she puts some cinnamon in them that i hate and cannot stand to put on without feeling ill. she won't stop. and it is hard to find one of those places, another one is many miles away. so, i buy it overseas and it costs about the same, expensive. but it doesn't work well at all. compared to birth control pills or HRT, it does virtually nothing. i cannot afford to take half a jar a day or more, since it is like $60 a jar (a small one). i take the dose it says to take and just do not have any luck. i upped it and had no luck. to up it more, would cost me hundreds a month, can't do it and not sure it would work, anyway.
- Re: Never Give Up! Aharleygyrl
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- Re: Never Give Up! Aharleygyrl
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- Re: Never Give Up! LuellaMay
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This is a reply to # 946,721Aharleygyrl,
Okay. I can see that you are depressed to the point of being apathetic. Do you have anybody to talk to? Counseling may very well help you and also it will teach you coping mechanisms for your agoraphobia.
The surgery is unfortunate. But it is in the past. Everything in the past is the past. What happened happened, you cannot change it. So let it be and look to the future. You have your whole life in front of you. It is up to you which way it goes. Now, I am a bit confused, you said you had a tubal ligation? That should not make you lose your libido. I can see that the fact that you may have done it for a man and against your will could have caused massive resentment which could in fact, be responsible for the loss of your libido. There is no reason why you should not marry one day. Love can happen tomorrow. The future ahead is bright. You just have to follow that path. Just because people tell you something negative about yourself does not mean it is true. In fact, remove yourself from those negative people and hang around positive people. You will become who you hang around with.
I have another secret for you. You will never find love and happiness outside of yourself. If you are looking for that special someone to make you happy and give you love, stop now. Oh yes, you will be happy for a while, but the novelty will wear off and the same unhappiness will surface. This is the reason for so many divorces. Everybody is looking for love in all the wrong places.
The answer to love and happiness is within yourself. You hold the key. As I said before, you must first love yourself. If you do not love yourself it is impossible for you to love somebody else. Once you achieve that love of self and happiness, you will attract your one true love. It will just happen, like magic. Like attracts like. It is the law of nature.
However, you have been through an awful lot of abuse and you are hurting and scarred. In fact, this may be the reason or part of the reason for the agoraphobia. Therefore, before you find that love and happiness that is inside of you, you will need to do a lot of housecleaning. However, nothing is impossible. And you deserve to be happy. Forget what anybody has told you. It is only their opinion and they are wrong. Whether you are married or divorced or never married has nothing to do with your worth. You were made in God's very own image and likeness and God don't make junk. You deserve to be happy.
Who do you want to be? What type of person do you want to be? Dream about it. You can be that person. There's nothing stopping you. And nobody has the right to stop you either.
Why don't you go back to Oregon to your friends. It seems to be that is where you belong. And sometimes we are just happiest in a certain place. I am a great believer in being happy and quality of life.
First of all, if you are not talking to anybody, find a therapist. You will learn coping mechanisms and relaxation exercises. You will learn to see yourself in a positive light. You will learn the art of right thinking, and before you know it, you will find the love that you are seeking right inside of yourself. The most important part is that then you will attract somebody that is worthy of you, not some abuser.
You don't have to live your life by other's expectations. What dreams did you once have? They are not gone. Just buried right now. But they are within your grasp. But right now you just can't see it.
I hope this is helping you. Take the steps toward your happiness. The thing is, you have to make those steps. Nobody can do it for you.
Hugs,
Luella
- Re: Never Give Up! Aharleygyrl
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This is a reply to # 947,032
no, i have no one to talk to. you are it. i called my mom the other day to tell her how sick i am, but she can't do much because i am here and she is busy. when someone you look up to treats you liek a dog out back, it is hard. like i said, i got caught up in the abuse syndrome. i am only now starting to stop. i stopped a while back, so it new to me and i'm trying to find something to make me feel good again. i went through this once before. the problem is, i went from one abuser to another. i told the current abuser about the one prior and they couldn't believe i was treated that way...but they ended up treating me worse. many abusers put on a charming act.
no, loss of libido is very common with tuballigation. i have gotten many emails and many calls from women who say the exact same thing. it is part of PTLS.
no, i am not looking for that special someone. i have had no interest in men for about 2 years or so. i have no interest in one true love or any of that.
i cannot go back to oregon until i get well from dental because i am in a lot of pain and in the states, the work would be at least $30,000.
what dreams did i have, i believed the abuser, that he liked me. i also believed i could live well financially. he took both those away and deemed me not worthy. but now, i only would hope to recover financially, i will have to see how that goes. i have been being thrown an old eaten bone instead of a steak for over 3 years now. it is like i am scared of making money. i am scared whoever i choose to work for will not pay me and will suck me back in the other direction. i know it sounds bad, but that has been my fear for quite a while now and why i don't do anything but watch tv and write on curezone. it has gotten that bad. but, the only thing that has helped me a little bit to catapult, was my extreme need for dental work and the help of some of you at curezone. otherwise, i might be heading aimlessly back to oregon searching for something that i don't even know what it is. that may be the best thing, but i have to give this a try with my dental first. i got a call a call from a fellow curzonian from england yesterday because they were worried about me. pretty amazing.
- Re: Never Give Up! LuellaMay
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This is a reply to # 947,125
Morning Torrie!
I know what you mean about your mom not being there for you. My mom wasn't either. She had her own severe emotional issues and even as a child, to a certain point I was her caregiver. I always tried to make sure she was happy. When I was immersed in my panic syndrome, I was in California and she was in Florida. Funny, I knew she would have a nervous breakdown if she knew how sick I was and she wouldn't be able to help me anyway. So every Saturday I called and put on this big act how everything was fine so she would feel secure. It wasn't until she first came to live with me that I shared my road to hell and back with her. One thing, with the panic attacks, I learned to be the best actress ever. If people didn't know me, they would think I was the most well adjusted person ever. Because at a certain point I decided that I would act positively, and think positively no matter how bad I felt. After a time, I noticed that something magical happened. The "acting" had turned into "habit." Not only was I well, but I really became a positive person. Not to say that I don't have my moments of discouragement and sadness. We all have that. But that is the normal human condition. Nobody can be happy all of the time. But sometimes I so wish that could be so.
Abusers can be very charming. That's how they trap you and when you are caught in their web it is too late. It is very easy to go from one abuser to the next. Actually, it is a pattern that must be broken. Self esteem and loving oneself is a good antidote. Be discerning the next time you meet that charming, kind, helpful man. Think enough of yourself to not get involved in another abusive situation. The problem with a lot of women, myself included, is that everybody else comes first. We need to make time for the most important person in our lives. Ourselves. I have to remind myself of that as I tend to be a workaholic. There are times that I must schedule relaxing and do it.
I am glad you are making an important step and attending to your teeth. This will improve your health and your self esteem. Tomorrow is the big day. I will be thinking of you. Tomorrow I will be leaving to go to the nursing home and then I will be on the road all day, making deliveries and visiting customers. I should be back by late afternoon. If I am plumb exhausted, I may take a nap before I log on. Sometimes a nap is the most important of all. LOL
I want to leave you with a link. I want you to watch this movie. It is great. This movie changed my life. Again. It can change yours.
http://www.moviesfoundonline.com/what_the_bleep_do_we_know.htm
Hugs,
Luella
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Also, foods make this co-functional wellness. Bananas and avocados in ripest or sat to soften stages are examples of tyrosine that links up with sunshine for serotonin I think and then there's routing of the good of the heat for making thyroid operable with t4 by selenium with ample sample in unshelled brazil nuts. It's not all money. Cheaper shitake you can air dry in a colander can be for variety in an acceptable form then to not defeat the outdoors connection with photosensitivity to that light otherwise with such raw mushroom. I make crackers out of all mine now when I have them. The list goes on, but this specific has me suggest quality of produce be carefully picked or soaked to be the mature peach etcetera as wrong consumption time can be egregious as goitrogens. This is the case for most fruits, so savor and find very good results also. Hypothyroidism could be an extension of poor choices and that is one means to a depressed mood per se with the auxilaries of anxiety by additional loops.
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I hope you look forward to the care that is there,
Carolyn
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