Yeah like Blox says your doing it w your honesty, your willingness to open up , analysing how you feel about whats going on around you and your interaction with it.
One text Ive always enjoyed is by Harville Hendrix, Keeping the Love you Find, He wrote a few and this one is for singles. The one he wrote for couples is titled Getting the Love you want. He has some great insights. Its a healing the inner child type look. He shares that we find ourselves with the people who can push our reaction buttons so well cause thats what causes us to face the need for understanding in our lives ,and learn mature love vs romantic love.
Where most of us would rather be with those that dont challnge our emotional structure.But then we dont see our need for emotional growth. Like it is said its easy to love those who are nice to us but true love is really revealed when we can share with those who do not have our best interests in their minds.