i am not sure what to tell you to look for since i had none of those signs that may have been considered the signs of possibly being infected. Fortunately my immune system and body is very strong so i have as much energy and strength as i had prior to becoming infected.
If becoming infected is a concern, and you are paranoid as it sounds you are. i too was very paranoid about it, but not afraid to be with positive guys i knew, and was careful about what i would do and what i would not do. How i got it was not something i did wrong. The person who was supposed to protect me did not, and he himself put me at risk and from him i received the gift of HIV. Also since you are so paranoid, and it appears you must bottom and receive and allow bareback intercourse you take the risk of becoming infected. YOur likelyhood of becoming infected is great if you are not taking any precautions or protecting yourself. i can tell you out of 3 times it only took one time and in the 3 month period of time i had serconverted to positive.
If you have not gotten a test you need to do it and it shows up negative, check back in one month and again in another month to make sure you are still negative and since the testing is available most anywhere for free, take advantage of it for your own well being and if you are still having sex, you need to take on the responsibility of not infecting them.
Since there are cures out there, it is not a death sentence as it once seemed to be. Stay negative so you do not have to be concerned with a cure or not.