I've read Henry Makow on-and-off the last few month, and I think it's clear that he isn't proposing _an_ idea of masculinity or femininity, so much as underscoring how TPTB are purposely muddying the waters as far as what it means to be a man or a woman. In that regard I think he's right.
I think it is empowering for both men and women to be not simply what they are, but what they could be. I think TPTB have moved the ladder, as it were, and set it against the wrong wall, and we're all busy trying to climb upward toward ideals that aren't what we were meant to be, and that's causing a great deal of confusion, stress and strife. Ultimately we need to jump off the ladder, re-assess, and move it to where it needs to be and then proceed. This is the message I take from Makow.
It's difficult as-is to find fulfillment in relationships, and I think the images and examples in modern media only make things worse. That someone like Makow is saying we need to look at it differently is a good thing. We need to find a better ideal in male-female relationships, and we're not going to find that from very screwed-up people working in Hollywood.