Thank you so much for your reply. I have been really struggling with this. I am worried that I might be making things worse by trying to help. Just yesterday Isaiah physically attacked my son at school when they were trying to do their tutoring. My son has never been in trouble at school, so I obviously don't want him to be involved in a "fight."
I will take your advice and try to help as much as possible without getting so involved that it harms my kids (or the little neighbor boy!). I know that he is already seeing the school psychologist, so maybe I can talk with her about what would really help. I think I am in over my head here.