So sorry to hear your circumstantial difficulaties. I too am going through a separation. My wife has left me because of being sick. But I'm trying one last shot to see if it may work out. Nevertheless, she left me about 2 and half months ago due to my illness.
It's unfortunate you misinterpreted me. Words being typed have to be handled so gently. I am sorry for driving you away, that was not my intention at all. I feel for everyone on this forum. When I said "living it up" I meant being out and about on the street, driving, going to the grocery store, going to a family member's house, simply having the power to go out somewhere and something even minute. I am bedbound and currently cannot do that. It's like being locked up in a prison. So for me, even though i'm going through the wife separation stuff, just going out to take a drive would be such a great event that it may topple over the stress my wife is giving me.
Again, I apologize if I hurt your feelings or brought unneeded stress to you. I'm sorry about the affair, I know firsthand what it feels like to be cheated on.