That's the first meme thought that popped into my head when I read your response, lol.
That first sentence you wrote reminds me of narcissists, people that intentionally address their audience as something (haterz) to gain attention. That's how b1tches are b0rn. But I digress...
Point is, quit trying to change anyone or suffer the often FA!L that comes along with that goal. All you can do is make suggestions or encourange behavior that you want to steer someone into - rather than think of any "change" inside of another. Time is a good teacher.
Your feelings are mutual, yet it's your turn to deal with them as you see fit. I personally accept the zombies all around me, but I tend to recognize the non-zombies and spend more time around those types of people instead.