Yes, I really like that attitude, too! He's so right. It's the royal road. You have to genuinely get to a place of being able to see whomever seems to be 'giving you trouble' as your own, personal best teacher. That person is the one who is helping you to perfect yourself, and to see past appearances, or limits. (So it's not just some empty philosophy of trying to be good.) I think the + should work. And maybe try * to complete a phrase. I'm not the world's most tech-savvy person, by a long shot. I usually just search by a phrase, or even go through one poster's posts, by title. No worries about asking questions -it's just that you might end up waiting for a reply; or being unanswered, and there ARE some great posts in the archive; it would be a shame if they all get forgotten. (It sometimes feels like there used to be more time, to write longer, reflective posts -- but time is speeding up) Sometimes, newer people will get into a fever of inspiration, :-) bring some of the old posts to light, and repost them.