I know Betty and I agree with her. She is one of my mentors.
I have also been with a whole lot of men. But I have only met one who could get me off with his finger. For some reason he just had an intuition for clitoral ogasm that no other man (I had ever met) has. When he touched my clitoris with his finger, it felt just exactly like I was touching my own clitoris. It was truly amazing.
It takes me about 45 seconds to a minute and a half to give myself an ogasm if I haven't had one in a few days, 3-4 minutes to get myself off if I have had one recently. If I have too many, very recently, the effort is not worth the reward and I don't want to bother with it, because the ogasm will be miniscule. I have to be very very still and focus and concentrate on the nerve that causes me to go over the edge. If I am moving around a whole lot, I cannot even feel the nerve and there is no hope of me having an ogasm. If I have to concentrate on making sounds that will keep a man intrigued, I cannot focus on my own pleasure.
A woman's ogasm requires an extremely subtle approach, or at least mine does. But men always try to rush me and they try to hard they prevent me from cumming. I end up playing the dodge pain game and get frustrated. It is much easier to fake an ogasm than teach men how to really do it, because very few of them have the patience or the ability to keep it up. What really turns a woman on and gets her off is boring to a man.
That is why I am extremely doubtful that any of the women who are having mind blowing conniptions when they "cum" really know what an ogasm is, unless they have expanded their concept of an ogasm to please a man and keep him happy. It all makes me wonder whether there is any hope of a paradigm shift in human sexuality that includes mutual simultaneous ogasm. And that is really all I am interested in doing, since I have much more powerful ogasms if men will stay out of my way.
I am not willing to fake ogasms for love or money no matter how rich a man is. I've known two multi-millionaires who would have divorced their wives and married me. But I'd rather get my financial security by educating men in a truthful manner than pretending so a man can believe what he wants to believe.