HAHAHAHA! Actually, I've gone through all those stages, especially the............. How could I have been so stupid phase.
Actually, Vulcanel, you are brilliant with the way you have dissected this. But we'll have to agree to disagree on the healing part. Some people can go through those phases and then heal on their own. But, some people can't and they develop anxiety, PTSD, or other conditions that are quite complex. And they cannot get over it on their own. They need help. Now, keep in mind, I am not this help they need. I'm here for support and guide them on what steps they need to take, or who they need to see, to help them heal, and this can take time.
Now, as for the victim and crybaby mentality.................. Maybe some people that don't want to move on, but not in every case. These people are hurting and they possibly have no support. They need to hear someone talk to them and reead about it, so they have an aha moment. Understanding brings knowledge, and with that, you can heal. If you don't know which way is up and you are emotionally and mentally wounded, you can't heal. So all people are different. For example, I had my aha moment watching a random video and then I buried myself in research. And, research from the point of psychology,.
So, Vulcanel, in some areas we agree, but in some areas, we will have to agree to disagree.