I know how you feel about having friends outside of you significant other. I think for me it is because I have very little in common with those who might become my friend. Single men do not want to be my friend because they do single's things and married people are concerned about working, paying bills, and what little time they have left they want to give to their children and spouse. I try to find other males to make friends with but I just don't find I have enough in common with anyone to make a frienship stick. I lived in Mexico as an invited teacher with a family that took me in. I saw how Mexicans would stop whatever they were doing and have long conversation with just about anyone who wanted to talk to them. They really listened too. It is as if their very survival depended on making friends. I believe being independent is another way of saying "lonely." I would rather be interdependent but my ego gets in the way and I will not allow anyone to control my life. I guess that means, "lonely?" I admire those who can stick around people they have difference with and not abandon them. I know that other males must be in my same position. Being independent is a two egged swrod, I suppose.