Hello Ashley! Congrats on your natural approach to health and hygiene! I'm into this sort if thing too, I never buy creams or soaps or cleansers anymore and it's great! Everything you need to stay clean and healthy can be found in your grocery store or health food store. Well for lightening hair I've heard that chamomile and marigold tea with lemon juice, spritz it into your hair every day and comb it through. DON'T use hydrogen peroxide as it FRIES your hair! I've been putting chamomile tea into my baby's hair nice results but he of course has baby fine hair, very easy to lighten. I've also heard of rinsing hair with beer to lighten it but of course haven't tried it on my baby! Lots of luck.