I take 2000 mg of "country life" L-Lysine per day as well as barefoot's coral calcium and no longer have outbreaks. I maintain a pH of 7.4 and above as that seemed to be the primary factor causing outbreaks in the past.
as far as shame and depression, there are some workbooks on 'cognitive behavorial therapy' which have helped me immensely concerning this and much more.
But the best thing for Depression is eating right, amino supplements (I take l-tryptophan from germany and l-tyrosine every day) and CARDIO exercise. Jogging a mile or 2 a day will do wonders for your self perceptions.