I think you guys should discuss it long and hard as it is a serious matter. If you plan on having children... read this:
"In addition, if a pregnant woman with genital herpes has an active infection during childbirth, the newborn baby is at risk for getting herpes infection. Herpes infection in a newborn can cause meningitis (an inflammation of the membranes that surround the brain and spinal cord)"
I also think you should have him get tested and see if it is just HSV-2 in his body (genital herpes) or BOTH HSV-1 and HSV-2. A simple blood test can accomplish this. And I think you should google it and learn as much as humanly possible.
Just my opinion. I wish you the best and firmly believe in Love.. certainly would be saddened if my opinions caused any stress in the marriage. But to be prefectly honest, I would not in a million years even *allow a women to fall in love with me* (let it get to that point) before telling her that I have it. But everyone is different as is every situation I guess.
I think it could be a big red flag and feel obligated to the Universe to offer this opinion to you. Also, how about privately asking some close friends and/or family what their opinions of the matter are?
Best of luck. Get him tested for both of them plus HIV(!)