I had HS2 in both genital and lip, and being a woman, I am in a much worse position than you. So relax a little. Now, I think you try to read as much as possible to update yourself in Valtrex as well as alternative therapy. So you can take the knowledge to make yourself feel better in conjuction with an M.D., which most of them give Valtrex.
I took Valtrex on days that I don't have I.V. hydrogen peroxide, as Valtrex stops the viruses from replicating. Something works for some one might have no effect for the other person, so try out, but try those that most people say have a great effect to reduce time lost. Herbs does not work for me, and lysine sometimes work, sometimes does not. However, most people find lysine works for them.
Also, you can date in a website called Herpes Dating though the members might be very few in future if you had considered all the benefits of dating someone with Herpes as well.
Being a converted Christian recently, it is hard at the start to let only a few good pastors or daughters of pastors know. Afterall, Christians are human too, and will let out accidentally. For me, I can't tell Chinese pastor but I can tell Caucasian pastor for it is not common among Chinese to have Herpes that the Caucasian pastor gave me more support. Also, only let those people who can support you know. No use to let those who does'nt know and insensitive individual to rub salt in your wound, even if they are family members.