It's a total bitch telling someone you want to be with that you're diseased and down there. What a way to kick off a relationship. what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I try to console myself that one in four people supposedly already have it, although they don't know it. It's a poor consolation, for sure, but when you've had it 15 years, you kind of salty. I've never had a guy turn herpes sex down, guess that's a good sign?