MD always say that 1st outbreak always occur within 2 weeks after the disease-trasmitting intercourse, but this is plain hogwash, I had my 1st outbreak when I was married and my hsb never had an outbreak....I think that maybe when yr Immune System is depressed HSV1 can spontaneously mutate in HSV2 .
I do not have it on the mucous....have it mostly on the pubic area, it is very very itchy because of the hair, but it is not as painful as having it on the vaginal opening...I am very sorry for yr girlfriend, it must be awful .
having a sitz bath does help a lot. she can add oregano oil to the water maybe. wear dresses and/or skirts, and no knickers on. MH on his forum ssys that olive leaf cures every type of herpes but I never tried.