I know what you mean dood I was in a 6 year relationship and it defo contributed to us breaking up, I never felt happy with myself so the inevitable happened, if it wasn't for this problem I would still be with her. Sometimes you have just got to make sacrifices, this problem does my head in but I can't see any other way than leaving it alone - which means no girls!. The only alternitive is to put up with and do the old routing of putting vasilne/wax on lips and then sucking it off (that's whta I did). All these methods that people come up with - ie useing different types of cream, oils, you are still rubbing your lips and that can only do damage!