your exact situation is testimony to the need of what I posted as a challenge here. Granted, I have since submitted an apology that this wasn't the forum to do that in. I went to the Christianity Debate forum, and have since been posting there. I welcome you over there, as I am trying to show people that there is a difference between christians who preach hellfire and brimstone, and those who try to relate using love instead.
Thank you for speaking up!