I understand what you're asking and that only LOVE could have inspired you to be so courageous as to question what we've all been taught (indoctrination) in traditional Christianity (God is LOVE). Jeremiah 31:33 tells us that the law is no longer to be found on paper or in text (no book can contain God, no words can adequately express Him, no thoughts of ours can fathom Him), but will be found in our hearts (WITHIN us, REAL circumcision is "a matter of the heart" Romans 2:29). Many of my brethren are well meaning but only able to develop a devotion based on human nature and the elementary doctrine of Christ (Hebrews 6:1) because as babes in Christ (men of the flesh, 1 Corinthians 3:1), the milk of the word (Hebrews 5:12) satisfied them. In their defense, I can only think it is because they personally never suffered the consequences of EVIL (Hebrews 5:14) and could only understand the regimentation and protocol of a partisan and bureaucratic institution. My brethren will not hesitate to judge ANYONE, believer or not, (in fact, enthusiastically consider it their duty to do so) of 'SIN' (you deserve a certain number of demerits and at least one black check mark in THEIR book of life) and will petition God to scorn you on their behalf (call the wrath of God upon you). Of course, I hope I'm not being too hard on my brethren, but they do not do justice to my Lord.
The crux of the problem is that they do NOT know what love is. The common teaching is that agape, philos, eros, and storge are TYPES of love. This is VERY wrong and a very important misunderstanding because...
GOD IS LOVE.
Those are different types of RELATIONSHIPS that are BASED on love. The human being can experience many emotions, but love is a SENTIMENT, an attitude of mind (Romans 12:2, "...transformed by the renewal of your mind").
The common teaching is also that we should FEAR God (UNBELIEVERS should learn to fear, but once they come to know Him, they should ONLY love Him, fear is only the BEGINNING,...Proverbs 1:7), but the people who honor Him with their lips, follow a commandment of MAN,...Isaiah 29:13, 1 John 4:18, PERFECT).
'New Testament' Christianity is HOLY SPIRIT (living character of God, spirit-attitude) that teaches compassion, sympathy, sorrow, respect for your fellow human being as being made in God's image, the decency of kindness, etc. and the dividing sword of the spirit/character of love that indwells in our hearts clearly divides and makes a distinction between good and evil (The Lord did not come to bring peace on earth so that everyone could continue to do whatever they please, but to bring DIVISION in our CONSCIENCE (you know, the tree that Adam and Eve ate from). Everything God did for us by sending Jesus (salvation AND leaving us The Holy Spirit) was meant to perfect the conscience of the worshipper (Hebrews 9:9 and 9:14).
Nobody today READS the Word of God (2 Timothy 2:15), but the word of truth tells us how to LISTEN to The Word of God (Ephesians 6:17) when His living character speaks to us and teaches us how to use that sword to divide good from evil so we can learn not to be the CAUSE of evil, but the cause of good instead of being an 'accountant of sin'.
We must acknowledge that we do have the option of developing eyes to see and ears to hear in order to nurture our personal relationship with Jesus. It seems that my brethren have somewhat of a relationship with the bible, but The Lord is a jealous God and wants our full attention, and if we let His Spirit be as meaningful to us as God wants it to, we might find ourselves being a little more (not rebellious) independent (James 4:5) of the command structure of traditional Christianity.