woah, talk about an over-reaction. cut your hubby some slack, i can think of a LOT worse fetishes to have than that. besides its usually the 'old fashioned guy' type, that is actually a lot more repressed emotionally and has much sicker fetishes like for young boys and such.
having a fetish for woman's panties? you really think that is so bizarre? gimme a break, that is pretty tame.