you have given no reason why?

it really can't be answered in the light of which you asked..

first off is your spouse unable to have sex for physical reasons
& if so .. willing to let you do this.. to meet your physical needs as long as you stay committed to the marriage ..
this does happen..
there are folks that are very ill and yet love each other..
the key is open discussion. and mututal consent.

or is it just for fantasy lust/ or tension release?

you did not give any info at all about your situation
to even base an answer upon.

ie: how long have you been married /
is this concerning you ... or is it your spouse.
. or is it a friend etc...

also is someone trying to tell you that THEY want
to have affairs when you do not ..etc...

if you be a bit more specific as to the exactness
of what your question pertains to
then you won't get a mish mash of others
imagined speculations..
based on a non -informative question.

personally.. anything done secretly is wrong
in my opinion./ better to be open and honest.
and let the other person know the realities
whatever (whoever) this question pertains to
deserves to know.. since it affects their life
also. and if someone is making a choice
without givign them the right to also choose
their course of action (what they want in their life)
is manipulative and disrepectful to say the least.

Honesty is the best policy of choice
(for whoever whatever ) this question is about

My thoughts on the subject
Ami Joi Benton Tweet