a lot of similarity in our dilemas. the only statement i got when she broke it off over the phone was that her needs were not being met. at the time my feeling was, what does it matter why? She wants out. That's the bottom line. not wanting to be needy i said little. my parting words were "i'll just say until we meet again. We have not said more than a few words to each other since then. i wish now i had asked for some answers that might have given me more closure. but in the end i keep coming back to my original reaction. she lost that lovin feeling for me and wanted out. i'll even get mad at myself for not deflecting her attempt to break up with me better. i must remind myself again, i shouldnt be dealt with that at all. the right girl wouldnt do that. only the wrong ones do. yet i dont care. i want this wrong one. it's got to be her. that's the desperation feeling kicking in. it's so difficult. BTW, Taken, that faithful phone call that night was not what ended it. women dont leave unless they are restless, unhappy or disenchanted. mine left me for the latter.