honey you knew he had a child in the beginning, right? if so, you can't act as if you are just finding out. he's right you should have gotten over this a long time ago. is the female giving you hell? if so then that's when you get into your boyfriend's butt and let him know you're not having that and you are on your way out the door. the baby moma need's to know who is number three in your man's life. first it's god, then the child and then you. until you get married. then you'll be number two. just set your man straight. if you love him and really want to marry him stick by his side as long as he doesn't *%#&¤?§* you. if you are not happy break it off. make sure you are at piece before you enter another relationship.