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Re: Do not forsake yourself for them, but be OBJECTIVE, they are not doing right by you.
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Re: Do not forsake yourself for them, but be OBJECTIVE, they are not doing right by you.

Read the Book "Toxic Parents" by Susan Forward besides therapy this really helped me see what a codependent relationship I had with my own parents. They thrive on making me the victam. It is not worth the pain. I see my parents a couple times a year now and keep it at that. When I was going over there several times a month I was depressed as I kept getting sucked into there games. And it is a game. 3 years of therapy later and my mother can still make me cry. The last time I seen her was Easter were I told her I was pregnant. She just gave me the dirtest look. I havent seen her since especially since I miscarried and I dont want her to rub it in as I know she did not want me to have children. I still love my mom and dad but I choose to live my life and not them threaten my mental sanity any longer. I dont know why but I find if I email my mom here and there I am better off keep it short and simple. I love her but I dont like her if you understand that.

Anyways try the book it is really good. Also I tried Codependents Anonymous also known as CODA it is a support group. Excellent.

Sorry you are feeling this way I know what it is to be the black sheep in the family and I took there power away and I have been feeling better.

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