Well I thought about the Myss quote and your poem for 2 days and now I get them both, and they are good, thank you!
And by the way, I do believe that it's right and important to draw the line at harmful behaviors coming at us or at others. In fact we hire public officials who do exactly that. But it's easier to do that when I can do it from a centered emotional space. So forgiveness can abide with and even support good boundaries.