Actually I've seen some feminine behaviors that are vendetta all the way. And plenty of guys who are insulted and say "Huh. It takes all kinds." and get on with their day.
And thank you so much for adding the point that I wish I'd said myself:
Real forgiveness hits the road exactly at the point where I have no ability to comprehend how or why a person could do what they did. That's why I needed to formulate my ground-water theory, picturing it as something that sooner or later (for really serious matters) I must turn over to the power that wheels the stars.
Corrie ten Boom in "The Hiding Place" had a beautiful example of this!
She was giving a lecture about her days as a prisoner in the concentration camps, and a man came up to thank her and say what a touching talk it was, and oh my isn't it terrible that those sad things happen... and he was her former prison guard!!!
She was paralyzed. She found that she, herself, was humanly incapable of shaking this man's outstretched hand. So she said a desperate prayer for help, and this divine energy shot through her and her hand, and it was the energy that clasped this man's hand instead and shielded her.
Thank you again, Faith, I truly value your messages and your input in helping me to see the way,