hi thanx for all ur replies..i found them all helpfull and im trying to be the happy healthy me, i guess its not easy as i have been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder too but thats for another forum.iknow 4 months isnt a long time to be single and it will take me a bit of time to get over the ex, but i have been out on a few dates with a lady, she doesnt want to get serious which is fine by me. im no where near ready for another relationship well not yet. hopefully in time i will find my soulmate and be happy with her but for now im getting used to being single, i guess receiving emails off the ex dont help i have had to change my email addy 3 times now as i think one of our mutual friends is giving them to her.,..sorry bout the rambling..i gusee i just needed to get some things out in open