It sounds to me as if the cards are on the table and you know it...but...sometimes good things can be taken for granted. He wants space? Wants to be single again? Hmmmmm. Could you go away for awhile? Go stay with your parents or something? Absence can make the heart grow fonder...it can also help the head think clearer, both yours and his. I dont mean storming out the door and threatening him, just taking a vacation by yourself for a few weeks. Give him a chance to miss you. Or not. Maybe you are giving too much and smothering him.
Him not wanting you to move to his state with him says a lot.
Watch the movie Walk the Line. June really knew how to handle her man. She gave him nothing until he earned it.