Re: Am I in denial or is it just wrong?
there is no right or wrong way
Whatever you do is right because it offers you a chance to learn about yourself.
The most important thing about the people around you is that they tell you something about yourself and throughout life we have lessons to learn about ourselves, sometimes it will take several relationships for us to learn the lesson, and indeed we never learn the lesson
The only way to learn is through experience and if the feeling you get is uncomfortable then be aware of what you feel, at this juncture some will switch to addictive behaviour to smother the discomfort, others comfort themselves that at least i m not alone and others put up with it because deep down they feel insecure about themselves, others will like the relationship to continue because they bleive that they are in love etc.
Stand back if you so wish and note the various qualities that you like and dislike about your partner. More than often the qualities that you dislike about them are within yourself and when you address these issues within you the relationship will change.