Helping others , cooking cleaning, washing etc for others is symbolic of avoiding helping yourself. (Most therapists find it easier to help others than helping or curing themselves).
If you want to move things on in life look at yourself at all levels. In what ways can you help yourself. Helping others can be a way of avoiding yourself
Solution address your issues then reconsider.
Giving your attention and time away to others is a massive distraction.
If this is what you want continue but be aware of the bigger picture.