As children we often learn that the suppression of feelings and emotions is necessary in order to survive in a `loving` (aka controlling) enviroment.
As we grow we find others who have also lived in such enviroments and life appears normal, supplemented with all the rich pageantry of societal distractions.
If we become honest and aware we allow ourselves to re discover our true feelings and emotions, in other words to redefine ourselves and values. No one is to blame it is as it is.
So everything is right, awareness and honesty are the keys, others help us to see ourselves and clear unwanted issues if we so wish.