Re: How to deal with slander and manipulation?
hi! you're so right about the overly nice ones you have to watch out for. Too often, people are very easily gullible and dont have a clue when they're dealing with snake-like behavior.
The best bet I still feel is to go on with your life- as you seem to have grown from this nonsense, while your hypocrite mother still has deep-seated emotional issues she needs to deal with yet.
When there is any opportunity to show compassion or love to anyone in your extended family-- prove your mother wrong and do it. Like if someone has a baby, send a card and a little gift, if a funeral, then go to it and show your respects-- dont say a word, but just give a warm hug and show you care. People can tell when you have true compassion versus "compassion just for show"
If someone in your extended family has a graduation or wedding, be quick to send a card and acknowledgement. and when any opportunity, show them what 'ya got inside--that you are actually not a monster like your mother said.
You have to be patient-but the opportunities to prove your mom wrong to your family will be coming one by one- and eventually they will see that your mother-- nice as they think she still is, allowed herself to get carried away.
If they can't see through her after all that- then they all have the same type of personality gene your mom has and arnt worth your time anyway.
It sounds like your a cool person to me- and I think you should hold your head up high and go about your life living it as you are destined to-- to learn that the meaning of life is all about loving others, and not about making people THINK you love others - but then backstab them later. If there is such a thing as reincarnation, then your mom may be stuck coming back several more lifetimes--lol!