Re: great girl..why dont i like her anymore..please help im desperate for some advice

Many of us are denied `love ` from mother, that doesn t mean to say we don t have capability of loving or being loved. In fact the love we get can be beguiling in that it is branded as love but is very often need/control based. The motto is very often "Do as I tell you otherwise you won t be loved and in fact you ll be punished".

I think that your relationship with your mother is interesting and explains for me a great deal of how you will relate to women.

The foundations of how we relate to others principally in a marriage are sewn at a very age. The angst and mystery surrounding your feelings towards women is almost certainly associated with your very early feelings towards your mother. From 0 to 3 years form a critical period in the development of the child s emotional attachments and development, principally with mother. This I think would explain the push-pull relationship coupled with the cheating aspects the latter probably forms part of your inner angst. Were you not cheated of a mother s attention at such a tender age? Could there be anyone of anymore importance than her young son? Perhaps you can only think of women as cheaters because that is what your mother did at some level? Maybe you might even think of youself as undeserving/unloveable because of your mother s departure?

I suspect that these aspects lie close to surface and flare up it relationships.

The solution to all life s quanderies are within ourselves, address the misplaced or errant thoughts and the picture of oneself and the outside world changes.

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