Re: The short and the long of it
Meeting the ideal partner to a certain extent is a myth. The pursuit of Mr or Mrs Perfect is a Hollywood Myth it allows us to think that someone will change us, rather than addressing our own issues, it also assumes we have no issues that need dealing with.
Until we can love ourselves we cannot love another.
We can need someone because that is child like and for the vast majority this is relationship we know so well because that is what we have grown up with, needy controlling parents grooming us emotionally to replicate what we know best.
Let s find a needy partner to control, playing approving/punishing games, and call it love.
Finding a partner is not necessarily an end in itself, it is part of life s journey of the discovery of oneself. Reltionships tell us more about ourselves than be would imagine. They can allow you the opportunity to work through issues thst you would never have thought existed. As we change internally, so we change the outside world, likewise our relationships will also change.