Most us end up in needy/control relationships smothering the uncomfortable aspects of life with the drama, addictions (eg. sex, drugs and rock n roll) and of course denial.
Everything on the outside is created from within, without emtional clearance/honesty (which this might be a step towards) making head or tail of what is going on in the outside world reinforces your internal belief structures, which were created in your early life.
Remember every relationship reflects part of you back at you, questioning how you feel is very important in learning more about yourself.