When you can do that others who you relate to will do so also
To deal with self esteem - you need to cleanse yourself of all issues relating to this issue, dating back to childhood. (perhaps beyond) Consider these issues as you were growing up, your parent s inputting and your behaviour. Start with looking back at the times when things, as a child were going wrong. How did the people around you behave when things weren t going well? Were you protected as a child?
Chances are you might need to regress. Be emotional. Release these issues.