Well Kitty, sorry to say, but YOU DO NEED A MAN TELLING YOU WHAT TO DO. Haven't you read some of these pathetic women's posts? They will do anything for their worthless pieces of crap husbands and boyfriends. There's no independent action and thought out here. A guy's words of wisdom on this subject really can hold water because we're not the ones getting "damaged"...the women are! I don't ever here women in conversation say "Damn, last night my honey banged me up the ass so good I thought I'd never stop cllmaxing!!!" Nope...never heard that one. Guys need to stop asking, and women need to stop giving!