No contradiction. I don't believe that self-gratification is wrong or bad for you. I don't buy into self-gratification addiction, for the most part. There are no absolutes so there may be a small number of cases, but what actually constitutes self-gratification addiction? Everyone does it or has done it. I am using excessive as a relative term, meaning compared to the "average" person. Excessive in this case doesn't neccessarily mean bad. True addictions can kill someone, cause them to lose their job, family, all their money, their health etc. I have yet to see this happen to someone who may spank the monkey a lot. People have been jerking off for a long time. Get over it. As I said in my last post, if someone is playing with yourself, spanking the monkey and not having sex with their partner, the problem is not the self-gratification itself. I would ask myself this question. Why do they prefer self-gratification to sex with their partner?? There you will find the true problem.