I know exactly how you feel. Before I got the Mirena, just the mere thought of my boyfriend sent my into a quiver (if you know what I mean). I finally find a man that turns me on and knows how to do me right, and now I cna't seem to muster up the desire to have sex with him for the very reason you write here. Now wonder men think us women are teases. We go on these birth controls for them (and us of course) and it kills are libido!!