Re: Idea of p 0 r n Addiction Could be Make-Wrong (EDITED)

EDIT: I originally responded to this message on the "Relationship Forum."

"...some women have taken the approach that their husband's higher level of a sex drive, was an addiction" There is an enormous difference between differing healthy sex-drives and addiction to p 0 r n o g r a p h y and one does not preclude the other, whatsoever. Most of the women who have posted on this (and, other) discussion forums have CLEARLY indicated that their spouses' abuse of p 0 r n o g r a p h y is just ONE symptom of a host of other abusive issues that they are facing on a daily basis.
To offer a blanket statement that a woman's diminished sex-drive excuses her partner for using p 0 r n o g r a p h i c material to satiate his "greater sex-drive" is irresponsible -

"There is a problem in martial, and other man-woman relationships, where the sex drive of the man exceeds the sex drive of the woman" is an erroneous statement - it is not a "problem," but a simple fact that can have many HEALTHY approaches. Many, many cultures across the globe do not have instant access to hard-core p 0 r n o g r a p h y and some of the cultural approaches to sex tend to be more inventive, respectful, and erotic than that of today's Western Culture.

For most individuals in a committed relationship, there isn't some magical "increase" in one of the partner's sex-drive, but a noticably diminished sex-drive in the other's appetite. Maintaining the often-rabid sex-drive that partners first experience during their unions is not only difficult, but unreasonable, particularly given the attention and needs that children bring into the relationship.

p 0 r n o g r a p h i c images, in general, are marketed to appeal to men. The actors are portrayed in risky, shallow sexual activity that is, more often than not, degrading to women. The images, themselves, do not promote "intimacy" by any stretch of the imagination - honesty, integrity, trust, respect, genuine affection, and tenderness are not written into the scripts of p 0 r n o g r a p h i c videos or the still-shots pictures found in magazines and on the internet.

Best wishes.

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