Re: I beg your pardon! I disagree!!!!!!!
In this day and age, the number 1 reason not to
stay in a relationship with someone who is
a cheater and a liar, is sexually transmitted
Back in the 60's and 70's, it was a different
kind of world and there was more room to be
understanding and there were all kinds of
I had an open relationship for awhile and the
understanding was, what was good for the goose
was good for the gander and since I took for
myself, the freedom my mate claimed, he did
not like the idea of worrying about another man
wooing me away. So, we renegotiated into a
When he began cheating again after many many
years, it was not the cheating that bothered me.
I should have expected it when a college buddy
and he began spending a lot of time together.
What really bothered me was that he was not up
front about it and did not use condoms and so
he was putting me at risk and that was not
acceptable and it felt like a big betrayal.
That he worked so hard to cover his tracks also
made me feel like I did not want to be in a
relationship if I could not trust him.
There are good men out in the world who also
would like the safety of a monogamous relationship
relative to STDs and do not play games and who
are also seeking meaningful relationships.
While someone like you, and you are not alone
in your philosophy, may enjoy or tolerate this level
of anxiety and dissatisfaction in a relationship,
many more thrive in a relationship which is
supportive and more balanced.
She can still love him, and leave him. Loving
one's self enough to want to be happy is more
important, imho, than loving someone who is
really not available and who is not going to
reciprocate in a way which this poster seems to
want and need.