I don't think that anyone can GIVE you the perfect answer--IMO, it comes by prayer and drawing close to Him and reading His Word. There are answers but you have to seek, knock, and keep knocking and the door will be opened to you. There is a parable in scriptures of the ten virgins...five had oil in their lamps and the other five begged for oil. The ones who had oil told them to go and buy some, otherwise they would not have enough if they shared theirs. They were waiting for the Bridegroom to come, and the five that went to buy oil were gone when He came. The moral of the story is to keep the oil of the Spirit fresh and follow His leading in everything you do...no one else can give you the oil that you need. There is no pat answer. I like to read Psalm 91, cuz it says the same thing...that those who dwell in the Secret Place of the Most High have certain promises. Dwelling there is akin to having oil. No time like the present to search high and low and do whatever it takes to have HIM tell you exactly what you need to do. He knows your life and problems more than anyone else....ppl here do not have your answers. He can calm your fears.