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Don't sweat the small stuff. by #1130 ..... Sex & Sexual Health Forum

Date:   9/2/2004 7:56:25 PM ( 19 years ago ago)
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I've been there. My Roman Catholic upbringing scared me into thinking I should not be having sex until I was married. I had BF's, but refused to have sex because I was scared, emotionally and physically. I finally one day got together with a guy friend of mine. 2 weeks into the relationship, I decided that tonight would be the night I give it up to him. I thought he was so worthy of me. I went to his apt and just when I was getting snuggly with him and ready to make my move, he tells me he has been seeing this girl at his work (whom was married, mind you). I was so traumatized, and ran away like a 12 year old crying my eyes out. He has no idea why I took it so hard, I never told him what my plans were that night.

Needless to say I met someone else a few months later. I asked a guy friend what I should do on my first "date" with this guy. He told me to just jump him. I did just that. My date stopped me, and I was so embarassed and left his place very confused. What in the heck do guys want, for cryin' out loud! So, I actually saw this guy again, and again, and before I knew it, we were together for 4 months. He never asked me for sex, because he learned I was a virgin. He didn't pressure me. We went away on a trip/vacation together and I decided that night was the night. It was horribly painful, but I finally did it. After all was said and done, 5 years later, we got married. I wish I wasn't so scared to try new things. I wish I didn't let my religious upbringing get in the way (I'm totally not religious, but I was worried about the consequences, just in case. LOL). I wish I was more experianced like my husband was, but now, it doesn't matter. If you love each other, and you feel comfortable, and you are protected and safe, don't feel guilt if you wind up doing it. I was actually releived, and actually started having fun in life. Don't be hard on yourself because you decide to wait, either. You won't fret when you know it's right. It's corney, but let your heart guide you.

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