Re: Thanks Larry

Hi Molly - a most thoughtful and interesting post as usual.

You have to be a supremely strong and self directed person to live with someone highly negative or depressed day after day and still be positive and functioning in your own life. In my case I have a spouse that tends to be negative in some respects too, and it can be challenging to stay on my game. However she's strong willed, capable and not negative for any reasons of unimpowerment.

I cant imagine being in a situation where you have no resource other than your own inner convictions to not only power your own life and career, but also feed the vacuum of emotional demands of someone who's clinically depressed (or the equivalent). Most of us need various supporting groups, pickme ups, disctractions and vices just to emotionally make it through our own lives. You are a powerhouse, my Dear.

Does that mean you're somehow addicted to negativity or a co-dependant relationship? No way. Obviously if things changed on your hubby's end and the care giver, care taker relationship changed in dynamic there would be a period of adjustment. But as a new dynamic takes its place, I have no doubt it would be nothing but extremely liberating and joyful for both of you.

You'd just have to find a new outlet for that powerhouse of your convictions. Not a big problem though, humanity itself has major problems these days and we could use you and whoever else ya got..lol

By the way, though, don't give up on EFT just because it didn't work initially. Kind of like someone who got no results with oil pulling because they tried spearmint oil for 6 minutes once, EFT really does take some experimenting to be effective.

One of my favorite and most powerful techniques is tapping on "what if"? We get such strong beliefs about what isn't possible in our lives that uncounsciously we burn bridges to what we really want.

Something like tapping on "What if my husband completely recovered from Aspergers? What if we do become extremly affluent? What if all my health problems completely disappear? What if I become more successful in my career than I ever could have imagined? What if my relationship with my larger family could become close and loving again?" etc etc.

There I go getting preachy again. Maybe its time to smile, look at the ceiling, wave my hands and clap... lol. But keep doing what your doing, and send some of that amazing conviction my way when you get the chance.