Inexperience in sexual performance early on in life poses huge problems for those such as yourself. Many folks out there would applaud you for holding out so long in an attempt to find Miss Right. I bet you aren't feeling so lucky, are you? Now you've found her but so what...you can't pleasure her. No woman wants that! And to add to that, you're hooked on p 0 r n o g r a p h y to get off all these years that your mind's eye has programmed your penis to ejaculate at pictures of strangers rather than the real thing. Now that I've covered the obvious, let's plan an attack to this problem. YOU CAN'T SOLVE THIS PROBLEM ALONE. At 41, your best sex years are over. The truth. Everybody else in the world has has hundreds of sexual experiences and know the ropes. Even your girlyfriend (sorry to break the news). Ask her to help you out. She will, trust me.