You know what else is a favorite tactic?! If they NEVER SAY YOUR NAME. Like you aren't human or something, don't HAVE a name like THEM or everybody else. Only WORTHWHILE people actually HAVE NAMES. Forcryinoutloud, don'tchaknow?!
So after I figured it out, I really had to laugh. It is sad, really, I know. Does a man feel so insecure that he never hugs his wife-ever?
Never says her name but maybe 6 times in over 20 yrs. (Of course, he denies it! In fact, he said my name just today. To my face! And I'm sittin' here thinking.... "work it. REWRITE!" (He is FAMOUS, in my book, for his "rewrites". He didn't bash my head in....he was just "asking me to leave!" Pushed a woman and a baby down a set of steps onto roses and CEMENT....A BABY....but he was "only defending himself!" A baby. And he hadn't been touched!" Rewrite!